Envisioning a healthier core?Challenge success? Learn from failure? Ruthlessly eliminate hurry?
Why?
To be a secure connector.
Milan & Kay Yerkovich summarize it this way:
- I have a wide range of emotions and express them appropriately.
- It is easy for me to ask for help and receive from others when I have needs.
- I can say “no” to others even when I know it will upset them.
- I’m adventuresome and I know how to play and have fun.
- I know I’m not perfect, and I give my loved ones room to disagree.
Connections are threatened every time conflict occurs, feelings are hurt, stress attacks, trust is broken, regretful words are spoken, or fear overwhelms. There's more but those are at the top of the list. So many families suffer and disintegrate because of the lack of secure connections. I think this is really close to what matters most.
Take this
to see how secure a connector you are.
- After you're done, go through it again but apply it to your spouse. How secure are they?
- If you have high school and college age kids, apply it to them.
- How about your parents?
- Now if you're feeling extra brave, have them do you.
Now what do you want to do with that awareness? If you're already blessed to be a secure connector, I hope you'll help others grow in this wellness of the soul. If not, push this growth area up to being top priority. Your future and everyone you love and loves you will be depending on your ability to securely connect, especially when things get hard.
Could this be why people in power lose sight of what's most important and make detrimental decisions that neglect long term welfare for those they serve and even their families?
Is this why the best leaders are able to make brave and compassionate decisions that bring great benefit and wellness to their organizations and even their families?
I'd love to hear what you think! Please share below.